Why is taking responsibility something I talk about, a lot? I have found that it is extremely difficult to move forward and create something different in your life UNLESS you are willing to accept your part in your current situation. I have observed that folks who refuse to do this are continually creating situations they don't like and do not want to experience in their life. However, instead of taking responsibility, they will always blame others, the economy, their boss, their spouse, anyone but themselves. There is always a BUT attached to their story. Why is this so important? Unless you accept responsibility you are stuck in replay, over and over you will have the same or similar circumstances re-occur in your live. You feel hopeless and powerless. And you are, because you have given away your ability to change the circumstances in your life by refusing to realize that you have contributed to creating this outcome.
TAKE BACK YOUR POWER!! Accept that you have helped to create what you don't like in your life AND you can create a different (and improved) outcome by accepting the responsibility. Now you have the power to create change in your life. You can examine your circumstances and determine what you need to change. What can you do differently? Is there someone you know or have read about that is creating the results you desire? What are they doing differently? Who do you need to be or what do you need to do to get different results? YOU HAVE THE POWER! Refuse to be a victim of circumstances. Make the changes, start right now.
Many times we think we are taking responsibility but we aren't. Instead we are creating resistance, or guilt. We judge ourselves and wallow in those negative feelings. This is actually a smoke screen for not taking responsibility. If you feel guilty find a process to release it, just let it go. Are you resisting? Perhaps you feel the situation is unfair, why does it have to be so difficult? The more you resist the more you will be stuck; mired down in the place you absolutely do not wish to be!! How do I know? I have been there, done that. Fortunately I was working with an excellent coach at the time that helped me to recognize just how much resistance I was in which allowed me to move out of it. Resistance is something I am pretty good at and I understand just how easy it is to stay stuck in. Face it and move through it. Never, ever give away your power to blame, guilt, or resistance.
It is often miraculous how empowering it can be when you step fully into responsibility. One of my clients experienced this in her relationship with her husband. She wasn't happy but realized that she still loved him and wanted to improve their relationship.
At first she just wanted her spouse to change – not a very successful approach. But when she decided to take responsibility for what she could change – herself, things changed in amazing ways. We cleared some old childhood/young adult programming in her unconscious that was no longer serving her and created new responses to circumstances that were triggering her. She was empowered to change what she didn't like by changing herself and her relationship with her husband improved, dramatically.
The moral of this story is that you can't change another, but you can change how you respond and react to others. No one can wave a magic wand and remove a tragedy or natural disaster, but you can determine how you respond. Will you become a victim or a victor? Life can be very challenging at times but never give up your power by blaming – you determine the final outcome. Use your power to create wisely and consciously and create a life of joy and abundance.