Somehow that doesn't sound like fun. Most of us hate failure and we try to avoid it at all costs. For some the idea of failure is so paralyzing that they can’t handle taking the first step of trying something. But the truth is that failure is often (usually) our best teacher. We fight very hard to avoid failure for it is often painful, uncomfortable and frankly NOT fun! A few years ago, when it felt like NOTHING in my life was working I felt like I was experiencing FAILURE in a big way. I could not see any light at the end of the tunnel. Not even a flashlight beam. But time has shown me that it wasn't failure at all, just a huge learning curve. It was painful at times, but it was an immense opportunity to learn and grow. I am a voracious reader and have studied the lives of many successful people. What I have learned is that they always experienced failure. Often times repeated failure as their situations didn’t turn out how they wanted or expected them to. Success was not easy for them. They had to work through their failures to experience success.
If failure is so valuable why do we work so hard at avoiding it? The real issue is that failing at something, big or small, important or not very important, triggers within us the feeling of BEING A FAILURE. There is a very large difference in failing at something and BEING A FAILURE! When you identify something as a failure it is external and can be viewed with detachment. You can look at it from different perspectives and analyze it with clarity. Realize what worked and what did not, and move on with the wisdom you gained from the challenge. But BEING A FAILURE is very different. It is about you not being good enough or not smart enough. From that perspective it is very difficult to have any detachment about the situation. BEING A FAILURE is about allowing your short comings to rule you rather than you learning and growing from them. It is a stagnant place rather than one of fluid motion.
With each failure we seem to gain skills to handle challenges instead of challenges handling us. We become more resilient and begin to understand that failure is just about something that did not work out as we had planned and not about us BEING A FAILURE!
We have within us an amazing capability to overcome, change, and grow. The more you develop the skill of looking at failure as something we gain from rather than BEING A FAILURE the better set up for success you will be. Shed yourself of the fear of failing and stop denying yourself the opportunity to grow.
Fail your way to success!!