Okay, I must admit I have never sent my daughter out the door wishing her a challenging day. Like most parents I have always wanted an easy and successful life for her, but that is not how life is meant to play out. One day I found myself complaining about a difficult time my daughter was currently going through to which she responded "You don't grow from easy!" Though an incredibly simple statement it is incredibly true and powerful. We can all remember a challenge in our life from which we experienced personal growth. We may have gained wisdom, empathy, a skill, faith, or perhaps resilience, or self-confidence. These are not traits that everyone can gain by playing it safe and easy. When we stretch and move out of our comfort zone we experience personal growth.
The truth is, when we are in the middle of these challenges we often experience fear, confusion, self-doubt, and many other seemingly negative emotions. It is usually not until we are well past these experiences that we realize just how much we have gained from them. Wouldn't it be nice if we could understand this while we are in the middle of them? What if we could just take a deep breath, focus clearly on the challenge we are dealing with, and move forward with confidence? Sometimes we do. We may find certain challenges "exciting or invigorating" while others simply leave us totally stuck. Whether we are stuck or excited will depend on how confident we feel about our ability to create a solution for the challenge. If we have faced similar issues and were successful overcoming them in the past we are highly likely to face the current situation with confidence. However, if we faced a similar challenge in the past and failed to resolve it or have NEVER faced this type of challenge before than we are more likely to doubt our ability to deal with this issue, and to doubt ourselves.
Do you have a “go-to” process that will help you find a different perspective to view your challenge from? One that will allow you to find some distance from the challenge and look for solutions that will move you forward. I have not found a “one size fits all” process. Journaling, meditation and prayer as well as spending time in nature are methods that work well for me. Another process that can be very helpful is to create a mind-map. Having someone with who is able to look at the situation from an outside perspective, that you can confide in can be a vital component to getting past challenges in life. A coach can provide that much needed perspective and advice.
What have you found to be the greatest help in getting past those unsolvable problems and huge challenges in your life? Let me know in the comments below. I would love to hear from you.